MY UNTOLD STORY

Hollywood movies, Nollywood movies and Bollywood movies hide certain truths from us. Especially when it comes to love and it's substance. Have you been fooled by the fairytales you see? How Ada, the poor little girl gets married to a prince with little or no troubles at all? Or how Krishna is arranged to marry Raj and eventually they fall in love? Or how Taylor falls in love with Alex after they must have fought all the time?

Well, let's read Simi's story and hear her thoughts on relationship. And I would be glad if you share your thoughts in the comment section below❤️

"Relationships are so untrue. I mean how can one find perfection and true love in a relationship. Well, I am so unlucky in relationships and here is why. My name is Simi and this is my story...

It all started in 2018. I got talking with a senior colleague of mine in school. His name is Dayo. Our bond grew from just being friends to something more deeper. He approached me one day and told me that he wants to be my close friend. He said he really likes my kind of person and wants us to grow our bond and friendship together. Without hesitation, I gave Dayo a yes as an answer. Little did I know that his motive was to get me to bed with him. 

As our relationship grew, days, weeks and months passed and he noticed I wasn't ready to be sexually intimated with him as he thought. Although our love grew deeper each passing day, Dayo threatened to live me if I didn't give in to him. One day, I summoned up courage and agreed. This went on for quite some time then I said to myself that I was going to put a stop to this. 

Little did I know that as people's faces are different so are their problems. I started noticing some abnormal urinalysis almost more often than usual. Unknown to my parents, I secretly started self medication and no one knew what I was going through. This continued for a while until my mum discovered I was fighting an infection.  

Now listen to me. Dayo left me without a word or anything to hold on to. My parents took the responsibility of everything about my health. I took five different tests in five different hospitals. As all these were going on, I told myself that it was my fate to suffer. I mean, see the damage I got myself into because of the fear of losing a friend. This led to me battling UTI(Urinary Tract Infection) for close to a year. It got worse as I grew a mould inside my body. I was so devasted. No amount of tear would restore my previous life back to me. I even had to go for X-ray examination to find out the problem. It was futile as nothing was there. But I was still in pains.

Then a day came that my mom sat me down to speak to me. She began softly, "Simisola, have you seen the damage you have brought upon yourself? Your friend, who caused this, is there living life not thinking about you. But who bears the pain? You, of course!" At that moment, I took a decision not to ever indulge in anything that will tarnish my reputation and to my health. We finally broke up and went our separate ways. This happened some weeks after my birthday in the year 2019.

In December 2019, I met Fred. I thought we could just be friends with no strings attached. I discovered later that he actually wanted a taste of me. Before I met Fred, I had confided on a good friend of mine about him and she said he was a nice guy. When we finally met, I can remember we only cuddled, pecked and held hands together. We even had intimate discussions on several issues. 

In one of our chats, he said that this relationship was not going to last i.e. if there will even be any. It sounds funny, right? I mean a break up before a date. Wow! So unlucky! He ended our friendship with the words that he was still in love with his ex. I was so embarrassed and felt really terrible. That evening, I didn't know what to do. So I ended up crying my eyes out in my room as a form consolation. 

I decided not to go into any relationship for the mean time. I mean, I need to work on myself, right? Also have develop my relationship with God and get concentrate on my books again. I just wanted to be alone. I wanted my sanity back in check and pursue my dreams wholeheartedly since it seemed nothing was working for me.

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The new year came. January 2020. I was at a conference where I met Carson. He was friendly. So, we got talking and exchanged numbers. We became close but just as friends. Two months later, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I gave him NO! But he kept insisting. He said it would bring us closer to each other. He told me that he strongly believed in my dreams and he was ready to give me all the support I need. I finally accepted to be his girl stating that we will not be sexually intimated. I realized later this was the worst thing I had done. Becoming his girlfriend! Carson noticed I was serious about the sex aspect and began to neglect me. He showed no care for me. But all along, I wasn't aware that sex was all he wanted. I showed him so much care just the way any young girl with good upbringing would. 

Then, a day came that he fell sick. His ill health was as a result of the weather. So, I went to see him in the hospital. I checked up on him and ensured I didn't complain about anything as I had a lot on my mind. As soon as he recovered, he stated that we needed a break. He confessed to me that he has a 3year old child somewhere. I was in complete shock. So, we broke up. Yes, the love of my life, the one I thought was meant for me, broke up with me! And it still hurts.

 

This life has taught me lessons. One important one was this: Whatever had happened, had to happen so that we can learn from it. I have learnt my mistakes. It's true that I help people get over things like this. I even give them courage but then what happens to me? I am human too. I need the encouragement and assurance too. 

But well, I guess I have made my choice. I do not want to be in a relationship with any man anymore. I'm done. I'm totally fed up. This thing called relationship is not for me.

So, I will just stay on my own."

"P.S. Do not judge me!💔

Is this story relatable? Have you ever been in Simi's shoes? Do you think relationships sucks? 

Do share your thoughts in the comment section.😊

Thank you.

With Love, Adaora❤️